jeudi, décembre 09, 2004 Where art thou? And what art thou doing? I have a friend who's been absent for some time. I just saw her last Sunday at a group gathering, but she hasn't been around for a while. I see her, and talk to her about nothing. When she smiles, her eyes are empty. To me, she hasn't been around for two years now.We talk of meeting up often, but there's always something which gets in the way - most oftentimes, it's just work. Emails, hundreds of them by now, go unanswered, save the rare occasion where she hurriedly presses out a "Hey there, I'm busy, gotta go!" before disappearing for another quarter of the year. I spoke with a mutual friend about this, and I was wondering aloud to him if I was being unfair in imposing my own value systems on her and expecting her to cherish the things that I do - time with friends, a good conversation over a great coffee in some ulu location, a good long email from a pal, et al. It's not that I don't understand her need to do well at work - she's been working longer than me, after all, in a much more nasty environment, but still, the amount of energy and time that she devotes to her work is just ridiculous. There are always going to be days where the old engine doesn't want to start, and you just want to go home immediately after work because you're just too damned pooped, but not to have time for anything but your VCR and your 7pm chinese serial... I'm just frustrated that she seems to be on a loop that she doesn't know she's in, but maybe she knows she's in the loop and she's happy to be in it. This is different from the dilemma facing me and some of my peers now - should we just take that job that comes along, has semi-good career prospects and stick with it for the rest of our lives etc etc - this is about trying to maintain some semblance of a life outside of work - it takes up 8 hours of the 14 good "usable" hours of the day, but what about the other 6 hours? I don't think I'm being unreasonable drawing the line between having your eyes extinguished and having them sparkle. [Where art thou? And what art thou doing?] |
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